父心汉の口白歌:Treasure (宝贝) !!
成为父母后,哭声骂声巧虎声声声入耳已成为许多人的日常,不然无数版本小星星+巴哈大全集肯定也绕梁三日阴魂不散…..当我以为教小孩只能听儿歌跟古典乐时,火星人布鲁诺却帮我上了一课。
火星人布鲁诺?! 教养?!!!
这位以 Just The Way You Are走红的美国流行歌手,有一首歌 Treasure (宝物,宝贝),一开始是这样唱的 (你也可以先看一次MV):
Give me all, give me all, give me all attention baby
I got to tell you a little something about yourself
You're wonderful, flawless, ooh you're a sexy lady
But you walk around here like you wanna be someone else
(这是一首情歌,歌词当然不童真) 简单说,一位非常完美的女孩,却老想著要成为别人 — 她不喜欢自己。
I know that you don't know it, but you're fine, so fine
我知道你不知道,但真的,你很棒。
听到这我觉得好熟悉啊! 这不是父母应该告诉孩子的吗?!
「孩子,请看著我,你的一切都是如此美好,请成为你自己,不要想著成为他人的复制品」— 哇,这根本是教养经典啊!
但很快地我们就看到了但书:
Oh girl I'm gonna show you when you're mine, oh mine (mine, oh mine)
Treasure, that is what you are
Honey you're my golden star
I know you could make my wish come true
If you let me treasure you
If you let me treasure you
嗯……简单讲就是你的确是个宝贝,但要是我的宝贝才算数…..其实以情歌而言还颇具挑逗吸引力,但放到教养里就是完全「露馅」了!
父母对孩子的肯定与接纳,究竟是「无条件」、还是「只要我觉得OK,你就能放心做自己」? 当我们赞美肯定孩子,孩子却不跟我们走同一路时,他们还会是那无缺无憾的「宝贝」吗?
这首歌听完,沉思了半晌 (X的,听火星人布鲁诺的歌要热舞啊你还沉思),我想把它改编一下,有一天唱给两个女孩听 (好啦儿子真的想听我就再改另个板):
Give me all, give me all, give me all attention baby
I got to tell you a little something about yourself
You're wonderful, flawless, ooh you're a lovely lady
But you walk around here like you wanna be someone else
I know that you don't know it, but you're fine, so fine
Oh girl everyone can show you when you believe in yourself
Treasure, that is what you are
Jamie/Jaslyn you're my golden star
I know you always can make your own wish come true
I am always here and know
you will find someone really treasure you.
Love you,
Daddy
Ps. 这首歌真的好有fu:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nPvuNsRccVw
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