1、这个世界上没有 hard choice

当一个选择可以用微观经济学指标,用 pro con list 来帮助你决策的时候,它根本就不是一个hard choice。既然一个选择你认为无法抉择,那么你就根本不需要思考选哪个才对,因为没有正确答案!

那么选哪个才对呢?

你选哪个都是对的,follow ur heart 足矣,只要你坚持这个决定。唯一失败的人生来自于drifting。而不是选择错误。

所以,总体来说你之前来加拿大就做了一次选择,现在再回国,已经有drifting的嫌疑。

当然,时隔十年,如果你现在义无反顾地回国,也算是一次有价值的follow ur heart,只不过不要总觉得城外的世界更好。

2、你有孩子的话,感受会不一样

韬叔帮助很多人留学移民,其中遇到不少曾经在加拿大学习和生活过的人,甚至拿到枫叶卡后又放弃回国的。

这些后悔回国,又想回到加拿大的主要原因,是生了孩子后心境不一样,感受也不一样。我不知道具体怎么来解释这一点,但是很多人告诉我,有了孩子后,就又想过来了。

总之,别指望有人给你标准答案,想试就试试,但是真的没必要觉得对面的人过得比自己好。那才是痛苦的根源。


可以回去,不去试试看怎么知道合适不合适呢?

就算不合适,也是一种人生体验,也可以再选择回加拿大或者其他国家,你也没有丢失什么。

我2013年回上海找了两个月工作,主要是靠熟人推荐和自己linkedIn上投简历,也面试了几家公司,感觉都不怎么匹配:包括用人单位觉得我不匹配他们的岗位。

所以,后来还是回加拿大了,现在又五年多过去了,也不打算再回中国工作了。

我也遇到过去中国后发展的很好的人,每个人的专业背景,性格特点,人脉资源都不一样,不去试一试很难说是什么结果。现在的社会,国际交流和人员流动机会都很多,最坏的打算就是不合适再回加拿大好了,没啥好担心的。


回去体验一下,有好的发展就呆著呗,不习惯就回加拿大。


年薪税前36万人民币吗?那一线城市不够生活的,如果还要租房,那生活质量不如加拿大。国内一般对外国脸比较客气,其他的他们都有比较奇怪的心态,你懂得。而且国内工作时间没有底的,几乎就是不停的工作,不停的是非。


We have a close family friend, for the past couple of years, the fathers relationship with the daughter has become extremely tense and distant. Why? Because the girl chose to go back to China. Shes 26 now, earning 500k+ RMB per year. Yet her father is still frustrated, not because he thinks that thats a low amount, but hes thinking about her future as well as the future of her children. He would much rather have her earning say 30k CAD per year in Canada.

Now Im not sure whether I personally agree with the father or not, but its something to consider. How old were you when you came to Canada? Theres a huge difference between someone who came here when they were like 10, vs someone who came here when they were 18. The mentalitys completely different.

How well do you understand Chinese culture? And I mean Chinese culture today, not the Chinese culture from 10+ years ago, because it has changed so much. What is your political ideology? Have you been "brainwashed" by western ideals? Can you stand the limitations on things like "freedom", marijuana, and so on?

Do you have what it takes? I know another 叔叔,who says that he will definitely send his children back to China for a few years. Why? Because people here are so simple, they dont know how to manipulate people and step on others and avoid having that kind of stuff done to them. Can you stand such an intense work environment, where its so competitive and people dont care about each other and only do things for their own benefit, even if it means harming someone else?

I dont know the answer to these questions, you are the only one who can answer them yourself. But these are all things to consider, and Im sure there are many other things that might apply to your situation. Like, I dunno, the Chinese obsession with a "house and a car" these days, and general materalism/consumerism.

Perhaps Ive been overly critical of China in this answer, its not like I think China sucks and Canada is way better. Ive been considering going back to China, to my roots for a bit myself. But its just so different from how weve grown up, and even as someone who tends to think of himself as a Chinese person rather than a Canadian, I still find myself out of place in China a lot of times, customs, thoughts that I completely cannot understand.


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