1、這個世界上沒有 hard choice

當一個選擇可以用微觀經濟學指標,用 pro con list 來幫助你決策的時候,它根本就不是一個hard choice。既然一個選擇你認為無法抉擇,那麼你就根本不需要思考選哪個才對,因為沒有正確答案!

那麼選哪個才對呢?

你選哪個都是對的,follow ur heart 足矣,只要你堅持這個決定。唯一失敗的人生來自於drifting。而不是選擇錯誤。

所以,總體來說你之前來加拿大就做了一次選擇,現在再回國,已經有drifting的嫌疑。

當然,時隔十年,如果你現在義無反顧地回國,也算是一次有價值的follow ur heart,只不過不要總覺得城外的世界更好。

2、你有孩子的話,感受會不一樣

韜叔幫助很多人留學移民,其中遇到不少曾經在加拿大學習和生活過的人,甚至拿到楓葉卡後又放棄回國的。

這些後悔回國,又想回到加拿大的主要原因,是生了孩子後心境不一樣,感受也不一樣。我不知道具體怎麼來解釋這一點,但是很多人告訴我,有了孩子後,就又想過來了。

總之,別指望有人給你標準答案,想試就試試,但是真的沒必要覺得對面的人過得比自己好。那纔是痛苦的根源。


可以回去,不去試試看怎麼知道合適不合適呢?

就算不合適,也是一種人生體驗,也可以再選擇回加拿大或者其他國家,你也沒有丟失什麼。

我2013年回上海找了兩個月工作,主要是靠熟人推薦和自己linkedIn上投簡歷,也面試了幾家公司,感覺都不怎麼匹配:包括用人單位覺得我不匹配他們的崗位。

所以,後來還是回加拿大了,現在又五年多過去了,也不打算再回中國工作了。

我也遇到過去中國後發展的很好的人,每個人的專業背景,性格特點,人脈資源都不一樣,不去試一試很難說是什麼結果。現在的社會,國際交流和人員流動機會都很多,最壞的打算就是不合適再回加拿大好了,沒啥好擔心的。


回去體驗一下,有好的發展就呆著唄,不習慣就回加拿大。


年薪稅前36萬人民幣嗎?那一線城市不夠生活的,如果還要租房,那生活質量不如加拿大。國內一般對外國臉比較客氣,其他的他們都有比較奇怪的心態,你懂得。而且國內工作時間沒有底的,幾乎就是不停的工作,不停的是非。


We have a close family friend, for the past couple of years, the fathers relationship with the daughter has become extremely tense and distant. Why? Because the girl chose to go back to China. Shes 26 now, earning 500k+ RMB per year. Yet her father is still frustrated, not because he thinks that thats a low amount, but hes thinking about her future as well as the future of her children. He would much rather have her earning say 30k CAD per year in Canada.

Now Im not sure whether I personally agree with the father or not, but its something to consider. How old were you when you came to Canada? Theres a huge difference between someone who came here when they were like 10, vs someone who came here when they were 18. The mentalitys completely different.

How well do you understand Chinese culture? And I mean Chinese culture today, not the Chinese culture from 10+ years ago, because it has changed so much. What is your political ideology? Have you been "brainwashed" by western ideals? Can you stand the limitations on things like "freedom", marijuana, and so on?

Do you have what it takes? I know another 叔叔,who says that he will definitely send his children back to China for a few years. Why? Because people here are so simple, they dont know how to manipulate people and step on others and avoid having that kind of stuff done to them. Can you stand such an intense work environment, where its so competitive and people dont care about each other and only do things for their own benefit, even if it means harming someone else?

I dont know the answer to these questions, you are the only one who can answer them yourself. But these are all things to consider, and Im sure there are many other things that might apply to your situation. Like, I dunno, the Chinese obsession with a "house and a car" these days, and general materalism/consumerism.

Perhaps Ive been overly critical of China in this answer, its not like I think China sucks and Canada is way better. Ive been considering going back to China, to my roots for a bit myself. But its just so different from how weve grown up, and even as someone who tends to think of himself as a Chinese person rather than a Canadian, I still find myself out of place in China a lot of times, customs, thoughts that I completely cannot understand.


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