出发到德国的前一晚，我重看了很久以前的电影 Up in the air。本片叙述一个男子一年出差322天，四处资遣员工的故事。为什么他能长期做这份工作呢？出差对他来说，很轻松、很随意，

不需要面对人际间的协调、争吵、秘密和妥协。

资遣完员工后，就可以拍拍屁股走人，一切干净俐落。

直到他喜欢上一个女人，第一次他想为了她，做点什么，

他想花时间和她相处，他开始懂得什么是爱。

但对她而言，他只是生活中逃避现实的插曲。

 

片中他的妹夫在婚礼当天怯场了，姊姊请他帮忙劝妹夫，但他说我的工作是教人们逃避承诺。

姊姊很生气，说他长期不在身边，根本不存在于家人的生命中。他听了，决定帮妹妹。

妹夫说我昨晚开始想结婚、生子、小孩长大、衰老，这有什么意义呢？

他说，婚姻可能只是走向死亡的过程，我们都在时间的巨轮上，我们无法放慢或暂停，每个人最终都难逃一死，

但试著回想你生命中最珍贵最重要的时刻，你是否独自一人？不是。有伴侣的人生才美好！

男主角刻意切断与人的连结，选择用逃避、出差的方式渡日，

直到经历妹妹结婚、遇到喜欢的人和对人生充满热情与好奇刚出社会的新同事，他才明白人与人间的交流的重要性。

 

当年看这部片时，才刚开始工作不久，出国次数也不多，不能深刻领悟片中的道理。

好多年过去了，今年出差出国天数超过180天，领到航空公司金卡，反而如片中男主角怅然若失。

生活的确需要一定的稳定性，很多东西在沈淀后才会显现出来，而非表面上的体验。

体验后，感受生活的快速飞转，感叹生命的万变，我更能看清什么是我想要的，

纵使外在环境不断变化，我学会向内观看，聆听自己的内心，客观的分析及接受现实。

不断地抗拒和编造故事，只会浪费时间和能量，使内心更加浑浊。

快乐来自外在，短暂而易逝，而喜悦发自内心且持久，只要常与内心对话，更接近真我，更能觉察喜悦的泉源。

我相信，每件事的发生都是老天给我的功课，没有克服不了的难关，只有无法接受的困境。

我期许自己能够已更开放的心去面对生命中的每一课！

 

 

The night before I head to Germany, I watched the old movie, Up in the air, again. This movie described the life for a man who traveled 322 days per year to laid off employees for his clients. Why can he work for this company for long? Business trips for him are very easy and casual. There is no need to face negotiations, arguments, secrets and compromises. After he laid off people, he could easily fly away without any drama. Everything is clear and clean. Until he met a woman, it was the first time when he wanted to do something for someone, to spend time with someone. He started to understand what love is. However, he was just a parenthesis to escape her real life.

 

Another important moment in his life was that his brother-in-law got cold feet on the wedding day. His older sister asked him to talk to the brother-in-law, but he said, "my speech is to teach people how to avoid commitment." The sister was mad, and she said that he was never around, and never existed in family's life. Then, he realized how important this action was for his little sister. The brother-in-law said that he started to think about marriage, kids, and getting old, and felt that " what's the point?!" He said, marriage could be part of dying, we are all on the running clocks. We can't even slow down or pause it. We all end up in the same place. If you think about it, your favorite memories, the most important moments in your life, were you alone?" Life is better with company. He purposely cut the connection with people in his life, and chose to live his life with avoidance and business trips. Until he experienced the marriage of his little sister, the woman he liked, and the new colleague who was passionate and curious about life, he realized how important to have connections with people.

 

The first time when I watched the movie, I just started my first job, I did not travel much, so I could not really understand the meaning of the movie. After so many years, I travel more than 180 days per year, I got my gold card from the airline, but I felt lost like the actor who hit 10 million miles from his trips. The stability is important in life. Many things come out after some time, rather than experience it on the surface. After experiencing this kind of fast lifestyle, and encountered the changeable moments in life, I have a clear mind of what I really want. Even though the external world keeps changing, I learned to look into my internal world, listen to my heart, and analyze and accept the facts. If I continue to resist it and make up more stories, it is just wasting my time and energy, and making my mind even unclear.

Happiness comes from external environment, fast, and easy to lose. However, joy comes from the inner-self. It is more lasting. As long as I talk to my heart, get closer to inner-self, I am more aware of the source of life from within. I believe, everything happens for a reason. There is nothing I can't overcome, but there is only some problem which I can't accept and stuck in it. I hope that I can be more open to face every lesson in my life!