贴地教育自律拒挥霍 12条英国王室育儿法则
抚养教育孩子绝非易事，管教方式的优劣和取舍更是众多父母都关心的问题，不论一般或皇室家庭都一样，英国王室 凯特王妃就曾在慈善活动上说 「带小孩真的好累！」，指出即使是有许多支援，仍无法真正准备好成为一个妈妈，更何况是许多无后援的母亲。皇宫贵族的生活并非只有玩乐、永远不用为生活而烦恼！王室贵族除了严格自律外，对培养下一代的教养亦非常讲究严谨，管教也很多时会亲力亲为，以下和大家分享 12 个英国王室的教育方法，供一众父母可以参考仿效一下。
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12条英国王室育儿法 代代相传
过去英国王室 养育子女方面很少「亲自动手」，因传统上英国贵族子女多是由保姆和家庭教师养育成人，但自从30年前已故戴安娜王妃有了威廉王子和哈里王子两个孩子后，她和查尔斯王子决定摒弃传统，肩负起教养两位儿子的责任。如今，威廉王子长大成人并已为人父，他和凯特王妃自然成为大众焦点，大家更关注英国王室能否将戴妃提倡的育儿法延续下去，他们亦成为不少家长争相仿效的对象！
1.贴地教仔、绝不假手于人
王室生活并不悠闲，威廉王子（Prince William）自幼生活虽然尊贵，但不富贵。即使长大成人，他与妻子剑桥公爵夫人凯特（Kate Middleton）生活与平凡父母无异，家中只有一个保姆协助，两夫妇亲力亲为照料幼子路易小王子（Prince Louis）、女儿夏洛特（Princess Charlotte）和大仔乔治（Prince George）三个孩子吃饭、洗澡、上床睡觉，虽然平日生活忙碌，但育儿的责任绝因为身分显赫而假手于人。
2. 待人尊重
尊重和理解是基本，作为王孙，小公主夏洛特和小王子乔治从小学习尊重他人，如「职业无分贵贱」、「不要糟蹋别人辛劳的成果」、「不浪费食物」、「凡事亲力亲为而不假手于人」等概念。
View this post on Instagram🏆⛵️ Thank you to everyone at the Cutty Sark who came out to greet The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge as they launched The King's Cup, which will raise awareness and funds for eight of The Duke and Duchess's Patronages! Visit the link in our bio or our IGTV channel to find out more.
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View this post on InstagramAt the @NationalTheatre The Duchess of Sussex meets Blessing, aged 13, who performed in the NT’s first Public Arts production of Pericles in 2018. Blessing is passionate about inspiring others through storytelling — her first NT Public Acts experience allowed her to ‘discover more about what she could do and gain more confidence’. The National Theatre’s Public Arts initiative sees them work with arts and community organisations across the UK to create ambitious new works of participatory theatre. At the NT The Duchess also met current and former apprentices from its apprenticeship and trainee programme, and saw a fantastic performance inspired by War Horse by schoolchildren from Edith Neville Primary School in Camden, which was created to mark the centenary of Armistice Day. As part of their work with Primary Schools, the @NationalTheatre invited primary schools to see their productions of War Horse, and in partnership with @imperialwarmuseums take part in a creative programme to enrich children’s understanding of the First World War.
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3. 以家庭为重
家人是世界上最重要的事物，小王子乔治自幼学懂照顾妹妹，两人不但有血源关系，但早已成为十分要好的朋友。小王子小公主二人从小就要学习家族历史，还要定期探望祖母戴安娜王妃的墓地，与家族关系密切。而威廉王子和凯特王妃也会尽量花时间陪伴孩子们，并遵守「每天一起吃晚餐」的传统。
View this post on Instagram🎂 Wishing a very Happy 70th Birthday to The Prince of Wales! #HappyBirthdayHRH Two new photographs of The Prince of Wales and his family, taken by @ChrisJacksonGetty in the garden of Clarence House, have been released to celebrate HRH’s 70th birthday — visit @ClarenceHouse for more 📷
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4. 鼓励孩子勇于表达
虽然王室传统多多，但是威廉与凯特夫妻二人明白每个人都应能表达自己心中想法，所以不时鼓励孩子勇于表达心中所想。
5. 以学习为先
受到父母影响，「将教育摆在第一位」的概念传承到下一代，小王子小公主都非常喜爱阅读，而他们一家亦经常到博物馆参观，首选是伦敦的Museum of Natural History，威廉王子亦指两位小孩子都钟爱那里，喜爱的原因并非「单单为了看恐龙」！可见两位小孩子自小已培养了好学的习惯。
6. 培养运动兴趣
威廉王子和凯特王妃都很喜欢运动，尽管乔治王子和夏绿蒂公主年纪还小，尚未理解到运动的乐趣和有益身心的好处，但在夫妻俩的薰陶之下，他们总会找到自己爱上的运动项目！
7. 谨言慎行
就算不是王室成员，待人处事必须有礼貌之余，也要懂得在公共场所谨言慎行，不要大吵大骂是基本礼仪。故此小王子小公主若行为举止不当，或不加以改善，便会被「禁足」在家，无法参与当天的活动，以作惩戒之效。
8. 尽情玩乐
该玩乐的时候就要玩乐，孩子需要玩耍，故此小王子和小公主与平常孩子一样也有游戏时间。虽然乔治王子也曾透露因儿子「精力过盛」而大喊投降，因为「小王子在家里总是跑跑跳跳」，但不会禁止，因为他明白到童年一生只有一次，也希望儿子不要失去玩乐的乐趣。
9. 拒绝体罚
没有体罚，相信是华人社会比较难做到的事吧！不管孩子们有多顽皮，威廉王子和凯特王妃都不会体罚他们，反而会利用一些「小技巧」让他们镇静下来，例如是突然大声唱歌，以转移孩子的注意力，从而令他们冷静下来再加以管教。
10. 拒玩智能或电子产品
这一则亦是家长一大难题！威廉王子表示智能产品是成人的玩意，对于孩子的成长而言并非必要，所以决定现阶段严禁孩子接触此类产品，宁愿他们多到大自然玩耍、动动手脚。
View this post on InstagramThe Duke and Duchess of Cambridge are very pleased to share some new photographs of their family as they visited the RHS Back to Nature Garden at the #ChelseaFlowerShow on Sunday afternoon. The photographs were taken by @mattporteous. The #RHSChelsea Back to Nature Garden, designed by The Duchess and award-winning landscape architects Andrée Davies and Adam White of Davies White Landscape Architects, is a woodland setting for families and communities to come together and connect with nature. Her Royal Highness is a strong advocate for the proven benefits the outdoors has on physical and mental health, and the positive impact that nature and the environment can have on childhood development in particular. Over the past months, Prince George, Princess Charlotte and Prince Louis have helped The Duchess gather moss, leaves and twigs to help decorate @The_RHS Back to Nature Garden. Hazel sticks collected by the family were also used to make the garden’s den. The Duchess told Monty Don in an interview for the BBC: “I really feel that nature and being interactive outdoors has huge benefits on our physical and mental wellbeing, particularly for young children. I really hope that this woodland that we have created really inspires families, kids and communities to get outside, enjoy nature and the outdoors, and spend quality time together.”
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11. 现时看电视动画
虽说威廉王子夫妇二人禁止孩子接触智能产品，但是仍准许他们定时收看心爱的电视剧集，小公主最爱的是Peppa Pig， 小王子爱的是Fireman Sam。适当让孩子看一些适合的动画片，透过动画片中的内容，家长可以适时的教导孩子正确的道理。
12. 不容随意挥霍
不乱花钱，乔治王子和夏绿蒂公主很常穿父母小时候的衣服，偶尔也会穿叔叔哈利王子留下的旧衣，如果真的要买新的，也会挑选大众较便宜的品牌，看见英国王室对品格教育真的很注重，不容许任何的挥霍。
除了以上12个英国皇室育儿的方法外，以下亦有本初提到的戴妃提倡的5点育儿法，供各位爸爸妈妈参考一下！
1. 经常拥抱
戴安娜姨妈Mary Roche透露，戴安娜热情的性格，可见于她常常拥抱其他人，特别是小孩子，而戴安娜也曾说：「拥抱可以带来很多正面力量，尤其是对儿童。」拥抱在传达人类情绪时有莫大效用，而凯特亦经常在公开场合拥抱孩子们，对年小的孩子来说，肢体接触比语言的影响更有力量，尤其是拥抱，多抱抱孩子、亲亲孩子，给予他们安全感，让他们感受到爸爸妈妈的爱。
View this post on InstagramThe Duke of Cambridge has today become Patron of homeless charity The Passage – here His Royal Highness is pictured with The Duke of Sussex and their mother Diana, Princess of Wales, in an early visit to @passagecharity. Swipe 👉 to see a visitor’s book entry made by The Duke of Cambridge and Diana, Princess of Wales in 1993. The Duke has made additional visits to the charity at various points over the last 25 years.
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2. 「我们都会犯错」的肯认错心态
新手父母难免有时会执于事事完美，但人非完人，特别是抚养孩子的时候。威廉王子曾说：「我们都是人类，我们亦不可避免地会犯错。」错误其实是学习的工具，它既可塑造我们理想的父母形象，同时为孩子树立有说服力的榜样。一位知错能改的家长，能让孩子知道：犯错是生活的一部分，但我们可从错误中汲取教训。
View this post on InstagramWishing all our followers a very Happy Father’s Day! Both of these images were taken at Balmoral Castle in Scotland. The first one features The Duke with his eldest children, The Prince of Wales and The Princess Royal, and was taken in 1952. The second image was taken in 1972 and features The Duke of York and The Earl of Wessex. 📷PA
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3. 了解何谓「金钱」
戴安娜王妃认为从小教导威廉王子金钱概念非常重要。虽然没有一个皇室成员会携带现金，但是戴安娜仍坚持会给孩子零用钱，并告诉她的大儿子他不能在商店买两颗糖果，因为他的钱只足够买一颗。节俭成风的英国皇室其实一直有不少规矩，例如女王要求所有人离开房间时关灯，也会去在宜家家居买廉价家品。
4. 回馈社会
英国皇室成员能舒适地生活，不少是由于社会，所以他们选择不断回馈社会。不论是英国红十字会等机构，还是私人捐献，皇家致力于改变社会上不幸一群的生活水平，并教导皇室下一代回馈的重要性，女王旗下慈善机构每年就捐出21亿美元帮助有需要的人。
View this post on InstagramThe Duchess of Sussex visited the Hubb Community Kitchen to join the preparations as the women cooked 300 meals for the local community, and heard about some of the new outreach projects at the kitchen started by the women. These include a scheme to deliver nutritious meals for women on maternity wards, and a group offering a safe space for women affected by domestic violence. The women also talked to The Duchess and @chefclaresmyth about their long-term vision for the Kitchen, and how they hope to use further proceeds from Together to reach even more people in their community. #CookTogether
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5. 分享感受
童话的美好归童话，现实中，皇室成员生活中亦有悲伤艰苦的时刻，从查尔斯王子和戴安娜王妃破裂婚姻可见一般。威廉王子和凯特王妃现在致力改变世界对心理健康问题的看法，身为心理健康倡导者，他们提倡人在沮丧时应分享感受，威廉王子曾说他希望自己孩子长大后，可以自由地谈论自己的情感。
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