貼地教育自律拒揮霍 12條英國王室育兒法則
撫養教育孩子絕非易事，管教方式的優劣和取捨更是眾多父母都關心的問題，不論一般或皇室家庭都一樣，英國王室 凱特王妃就曾在慈善活動上說 「帶小孩真的好累！」，指出即使是有許多支援，仍無法真正準備好成為一個媽媽，更何況是許多無後援的母親。皇宮貴族的生活並非只有玩樂、永遠不用為生活而煩惱！王室貴族除了嚴格自律外，對培養下一代的教養亦非常講究嚴謹，管教也很多時會親力親為，以下和大家分享 12 個英國王室的教育方法，供一眾父母可以參考仿效一下。
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12條英國王室育兒法 代代相傳
過去英國王室 養育子女方面很少「親自動手」，因傳統上英國貴族子女多是由保姆和家庭教師養育成人，但自從30年前已故戴安娜王妃有了威廉王子和哈里王子兩個孩子後，她和查爾斯王子決定摒棄傳統，肩負起教養兩位兒子的責任。如今，威廉王子長大成人並已為人父，他和凱特王妃自然成為大眾焦點，大家更關注英國王室能否將戴妃提倡的育兒法延續下去，他們亦成為不少家長爭相仿效的對象！
1.貼地教仔、絕不假手於人
王室生活並不悠閒，威廉王子（Prince William）自幼生活雖然尊貴，但不富貴。即使長大成人，他與妻子劍橋公爵夫人凱特（Kate Middleton）生活與平凡父母無異，家中只有一個保姆協助，兩夫婦親力親為照料幼子路易小王子（Prince Louis）、女兒夏洛特（Princess Charlotte）和大仔喬治（Prince George）三個孩子喫飯、洗澡、上牀睡覺，雖然平日生活忙碌，但育兒的責任絕因為身分顯赫而假手於人。
2. 待人尊重
尊重和理解是基本，作為王孫，小公主夏洛特和小王子喬治從小學習尊重他人，如「職業無分貴賤」、「不要糟蹋別人辛勞的成果」、「不浪費食物」、「凡事親力親為而不假手於人」等概念。
View this post on Instagram🏆⛵️ Thank you to everyone at the Cutty Sark who came out to greet The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge as they launched The King's Cup, which will raise awareness and funds for eight of The Duke and Duchess's Patronages! Visit the link in our bio or our IGTV channel to find out more.
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View this post on InstagramAt the @NationalTheatre The Duchess of Sussex meets Blessing, aged 13, who performed in the NT’s first Public Arts production of Pericles in 2018. Blessing is passionate about inspiring others through storytelling — her first NT Public Acts experience allowed her to ‘discover more about what she could do and gain more confidence’. The National Theatre’s Public Arts initiative sees them work with arts and community organisations across the UK to create ambitious new works of participatory theatre. At the NT The Duchess also met current and former apprentices from its apprenticeship and trainee programme, and saw a fantastic performance inspired by War Horse by schoolchildren from Edith Neville Primary School in Camden, which was created to mark the centenary of Armistice Day. As part of their work with Primary Schools, the @NationalTheatre invited primary schools to see their productions of War Horse, and in partnership with @imperialwarmuseums take part in a creative programme to enrich children’s understanding of the First World War.
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3. 以家庭為重
家人是世界上最重要的事物，小王子喬治自幼學懂照顧妹妹，兩人不但有血源關係，但早已成為十分要好的朋友。小王子小公主二人從小就要學習家族歷史，還要定期探望祖母戴安娜王妃的墓地，與家族關係密切。而威廉王子和凱特王妃也會盡量花時間陪伴孩子們，並遵守「每天一起喫晚餐」的傳統。
View this post on Instagram🎂 Wishing a very Happy 70th Birthday to The Prince of Wales! #HappyBirthdayHRH Two new photographs of The Prince of Wales and his family, taken by @ChrisJacksonGetty in the garden of Clarence House, have been released to celebrate HRH’s 70th birthday — visit @ClarenceHouse for more 📷
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4. 鼓勵孩子勇於表達
雖然王室傳統多多，但是威廉與凱特夫妻二人明白每個人都應能表達自己心中想法，所以不時鼓勵孩子勇於表達心中所想。
5. 以學習為先
受到父母影響，「將教育擺在第一位」的概念傳承到下一代，小王子小公主都非常喜愛閱讀，而他們一家亦經常到博物館參觀，首選是倫敦的Museum of Natural History，威廉王子亦指兩位小孩子都鍾愛那裡，喜愛的原因並非「單單為了看恐龍」！可見兩位小孩子自小已培養了好學的習慣。
6. 培養運動興趣
威廉王子和凱特王妃都很喜歡運動，儘管喬治王子和夏綠蒂公主年紀還小，尚未理解到運動的樂趣和有益身心的好處，但在夫妻倆的薰陶之下，他們總會找到自己愛上的運動項目！
7. 謹言慎行
就算不是王室成員，待人處事必須有禮貌之餘，也要懂得在公共場所謹言慎行，不要大吵大罵是基本禮儀。故此小王子小公主若行為舉止不當，或不加以改善，便會被「禁足」在家，無法參與當天的活動，以作懲戒之效。
8. 盡情玩樂
該玩樂的時候就要玩樂，孩子需要玩耍，故此小王子和小公主與平常孩子一樣也有遊戲時間。雖然喬治王子也曾透露因兒子「精力過盛」而大喊投降，因為「小王子在家裡總是跑跑跳跳」，但不會禁止，因為他明白到童年一生只有一次，也希望兒子不要失去玩樂的樂趣。
9. 拒絕體罰
沒有體罰，相信是華人社會比較難做到的事吧！不管孩子們有多頑皮，威廉王子和凱特王妃都不會體罰他們，反而會利用一些「小技巧」讓他們鎮靜下來，例如是突然大聲唱歌，以轉移孩子的注意力，從而令他們冷靜下來再加以管教。
10. 拒玩智能或電子產品
這一則亦是家長一大難題！威廉王子表示智能產品是成人的玩意，對於孩子的成長而言並非必要，所以決定現階段嚴禁孩子接觸此類產品，寧願他們多到大自然玩耍、動動手腳。
View this post on InstagramThe Duke and Duchess of Cambridge are very pleased to share some new photographs of their family as they visited the RHS Back to Nature Garden at the #ChelseaFlowerShow on Sunday afternoon. The photographs were taken by @mattporteous. The #RHSChelsea Back to Nature Garden, designed by The Duchess and award-winning landscape architects Andrée Davies and Adam White of Davies White Landscape Architects, is a woodland setting for families and communities to come together and connect with nature. Her Royal Highness is a strong advocate for the proven benefits the outdoors has on physical and mental health, and the positive impact that nature and the environment can have on childhood development in particular. Over the past months, Prince George, Princess Charlotte and Prince Louis have helped The Duchess gather moss, leaves and twigs to help decorate @The_RHS Back to Nature Garden. Hazel sticks collected by the family were also used to make the garden’s den. The Duchess told Monty Don in an interview for the BBC: “I really feel that nature and being interactive outdoors has huge benefits on our physical and mental wellbeing, particularly for young children. I really hope that this woodland that we have created really inspires families, kids and communities to get outside, enjoy nature and the outdoors, and spend quality time together.”
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11. 現時看電視動畫
雖說威廉王子夫婦二人禁止孩子接觸智能產品，但是仍準許他們定時收看心愛的電視劇集，小公主最愛的是Peppa Pig， 小王子愛的是Fireman Sam。適當讓孩子看一些適合的動畫片，透過動畫片中的內容，家長可以適時的教導孩子正確的道理。
12. 不容隨意揮霍
不亂花錢，喬治王子和夏綠蒂公主很常穿父母小時候的衣服，偶爾也會穿叔叔哈利王子留下的舊衣，如果真的要買新的，也會挑選大眾較便宜的品牌，看見英國王室對品格教育真的很注重，不容許任何的揮霍。
除了以上12個英國皇室育兒的方法外，以下亦有本初提到的戴妃提倡的5點育兒法，供各位爸爸媽媽參考一下！
1. 經常擁抱
戴安娜姨媽Mary Roche透露，戴安娜熱情的性格，可見於她常常擁抱其他人，特別是小孩子，而戴安娜也曾說：「擁抱可以帶來很多正面力量，尤其是對兒童。」擁抱在傳達人類情緒時有莫大效用，而凱特亦經常在公開場合擁抱孩子們，對年小的孩子來說，肢體接觸比語言的影響更有力量，尤其是擁抱，多抱抱孩子、親親孩子，給予他們安全感，讓他們感受到爸爸媽媽的愛。
View this post on InstagramThe Duke of Cambridge has today become Patron of homeless charity The Passage – here His Royal Highness is pictured with The Duke of Sussex and their mother Diana, Princess of Wales, in an early visit to @passagecharity. Swipe 👉 to see a visitor’s book entry made by The Duke of Cambridge and Diana, Princess of Wales in 1993. The Duke has made additional visits to the charity at various points over the last 25 years.
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2. 「我們都會犯錯」的肯認錯心態
新手父母難免有時會執於事事完美，但人非完人，特別是撫養孩子的時候。威廉王子曾說：「我們都是人類，我們亦不可避免地會犯錯。」錯誤其實是學習的工具，它既可塑造我們理想的父母形象，同時為孩子樹立有說服力的榜樣。一位知錯能改的家長，能讓孩子知道：犯錯是生活的一部分，但我們可從錯誤中汲取教訓。
View this post on InstagramWishing all our followers a very Happy Father’s Day! Both of these images were taken at Balmoral Castle in Scotland. The first one features The Duke with his eldest children, The Prince of Wales and The Princess Royal, and was taken in 1952. The second image was taken in 1972 and features The Duke of York and The Earl of Wessex. 📷PA
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3. 瞭解何謂「金錢」
戴安娜王妃認為從小教導威廉王子金錢概念非常重要。雖然沒有一個皇室成員會攜帶現金，但是戴安娜仍堅持會給孩子零用錢，並告訴她的大兒子他不能在商店買兩顆糖果，因為他的錢只足夠買一顆。節儉成風的英國皇室其實一直有不少規矩，例如女王要求所有人離開房間時關燈，也會去在宜家家居買廉價家品。
4. 回饋社會
英國皇室成員能舒適地生活，不少是由於社會，所以他們選擇不斷回饋社會。不論是英國紅十字會等機構，還是私人捐獻，皇家致力於改變社會上不幸一羣的生活水平，並教導皇室下一代回饋的重要性，女王旗下慈善機構每年就捐出21億美元幫助有需要的人。
View this post on InstagramThe Duchess of Sussex visited the Hubb Community Kitchen to join the preparations as the women cooked 300 meals for the local community, and heard about some of the new outreach projects at the kitchen started by the women. These include a scheme to deliver nutritious meals for women on maternity wards, and a group offering a safe space for women affected by domestic violence. The women also talked to The Duchess and @chefclaresmyth about their long-term vision for the Kitchen, and how they hope to use further proceeds from Together to reach even more people in their community. #CookTogether
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5. 分享感受
童話的美好歸童話，現實中，皇室成員生活中亦有悲傷艱苦的時刻，從查爾斯王子和戴安娜王妃破裂婚姻可見一般。威廉王子和凱特王妃現在致力改變世界對心理健康問題的看法，身為心理健康倡導者，他們提倡人在沮喪時應分享感受，威廉王子曾說他希望自己孩子長大後，可以自由地談論自己的情感。
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