新竹菁英｜即将毕业的你，感到徬徨吗？

毕业季来临啦

你是否在这段过渡期间感到压力？

对未来不知道该如何选择？

总觉得还来不及想清楚就要进入现实世界？

别害怕！

今天网路作家Kovie Biakolo和读者分享13件他希望准毕业生们都能知道的事，希望正在徬徨的你看完后也能重新找回平静以及前进的力量

It’s okay to be scared. 觉得恐惧是正常的

You’re going to be tempted to put a brave face on in front of everyone you know. But as all the clichés have told us across time, being brave isn’t about not have fears, it’s about acknowledging that you do, and facing them anyway.

对未来感到徬徨而产生恐惧是再正常不过的事。当身边的人貌似对自己的人生都有所想法时，自己却还不知道未来该往哪走，很容易就让自己做出莽撞的决定，与其让恐惧吞噬你、随便向人生低头、做出那些看似安全的选择，不如勇敢正视这份害怕，给自己充分的时间尝试、跌倒、重新爬起来，因为每一个经历都会让你更认识自己，总有一天你会走出属于自己的路。

You don’t need to have it all figured out.

你不必立刻就搞清楚全部的事

Whenever we are fast approaching the end of an experience, it can feel like if you don’t have every last detail figured out, things are not going to work out. Well, take it from someone who went from having everything figured out to having nothing figured out in my final semester, the latter is way more interesting.

比起急著追上旁人的脚步好让自己能一时不感到那么恐惧，不如花时间听听自己的声音、了解自己的热情所在。你不必一毕业就立刻知道自己的方向所在，更不用急逼自己对未来的人生有所规划，大多时候生活并不是我们能掌控的，只要你确定自己在成为自己希望成为的人，就勇敢按照自己的脚步迈进。

Be prepared but be flexible. 有所准备但保持弹性

You’re making plans, you’re sending out applications, and going on interviews. Or maybe you’re much further than many and you’ve got the job, the city, and all the devilish details planned out. By all means, do the best you can. But be prepared for a few curve balls along the way, and be courageous enough to change your mind.

如果你正在为未来做规划、投履历、面试，或是你早已经找到工作，对于接下来的日子也已经有所计划了，记得也要为自己留有弹性的空间，现在决定做的工作有很大的机会不会是你未来真正想从事的行业，如果出现计划以外的事也别轻易就让它过去，审慎评估再做决定，或许你会找到更适合自己的路。

Ask for help, and ask for it often. 时常向他人寻求意见及协助

It may feel like college is where you have become independent. But more than likely, you just scratch the surface of adulthood. You still need help. And now more than ever, you need to learn how to ask for it with humility. People will go an extra mile for a young person who is humble.

虽然大学毕业的身分让你觉得自己应该要像是个能独当一面的大人了，但实际上22岁的我们都只是刚迈入成人世界的新手罢了。徬徨、遇见困难、不知如何抉择时，就谦虚的向自己敬重、信任的教授或长辈们征求意见，每个你所遇见的成熟大人都曾经历过和你一样的事，也会非常乐意给你人生的指引。

Be confident but don’t be arrogant. 保持信心但不自负

The world away from college might be a new world for you and you have to go into it, with all the confidence you can manage. But never let that confidence turn into arrogance. As far as the world is concerned, you are probably unproven in what you set out to do. And if you forget that, life will find a way to remind you of it.

刚毕业的我们，原先在学校是那些感觉最为成熟，也对生活有所想法的一群，出了社会后却又要成为菜鸟重新学习，这样的转变让许多人感到不适应。不要被迎面而来的挑战打垮你的信心，但也别过度自负，不懂得放下身段学习，熬久了，是你的就会是你的。

Cherish your friendships now. 珍惜身边的朋友

You will never be with friends in the same way that you were in college. And as you may or may not realize, some of your friendships will slip away. It’ll be for many reasons. But don’t think about that too much. For now, love the ones you’re with.

也许你还未认真的想像过这些画面，但毕业后和朋友间的相处模式再也不可能回到大学时代那般，光是一群姊妹要聚在一起聊天就非常困难，每个人都有自己的新生活和事业要打拼，很多时候友情也会在不知不觉中消逝，你能做的是好好珍惜现在在身边的朋友们，用心去爱每个人。

Don’t be in a rush to move onto the next stage.

不要匆忙的跳入人生下一个阶段

Like many people, I spent far too much of my senior year, basked in the illusion of senioritis. Okay, fine senioritis is very real. But recognize that, you are definitely going to have an end to this experience soon. It’s too easy to wish it would go by quicker. But slow down, and relish in the few months you have left at this stage.

学生生涯和出社会后的差距或许你还无法深刻体会，但常常听见别人说「当学生真的很幸福」这句话，等到毕业后相信你也会感触良多。我们不再是那么无拘无束的一群，也许现在的你对未来怀有许多抱负和理想，但别因此而忘了好好珍惜每个当下，尤其是这个当了将近20年的学生身分，因为我们无法让时间倒转，往后的日子将不同昔日。

You’re going to change but never forget who you are right now.

人会随著时间改变，但切记永远不要忘记自己现在的模样

Things might change in a way that you expect but the most interesting changes will be the ones you don’t anticipate. But regardless of what you might become in the future, look back at these years with a sense of humor and compassion. And one way to do that, is to live that way right now.

出社会以后你会面对许多无法预期的人、事、物，更会发现自己不再能随心所欲的过生活，常常要压抑自己的感受甚至渐渐丧失过去的热情，唯一能提醒自己曾经活得很精采的方法，是想想自己在大学时曾经炙热的双眼，还有那些对于人生的理想与期望，不要让忙碌的生活吞噬了你的憧憬，所有现在的努力都是为了让自己的双眼再次因梦想而闪闪发亮。

Let bygones be bygones. 让过去的事过去

You will be tempted to hold onto some regrets – you might already have a few. And in a few years, you’ll know that you should have done some things differently. But right now, right now is the time to decide that whatever happened during these years, happened. You can’t change it. You can’t go back. All you can do is learn the lessons and move forward.

也许对于过去的选择你曾感到后悔，无论是选了这个系却发现自己不喜欢，还是悔恨自己不曾花心思努力学习，对于即将毕业的你，既然无法改变过去就学会换个角度看事情吧！因为有那些过去才能遇见一路上遇见的人们，并造就现在的自己。而对于未来，你该做的是放下悔恨，去问自己有什么事现在不做会在未来后悔，然后用心的过每一天。

Remember that fortune favors the brave.

跳脱舒适圈，放手一搏

You’re going to have a lot of decisions to make, choices that make you feel so uncertain of everything. It’ll be tempting to always choose the path of least resistance, the safe path. But give yourself more credit, and create your own path. Go places and do things that remind you that this life is an adventure at every stage.

年轻的你最好的本钱就是没有什么好失去的，在人生的道路上你会面临许多抉择，趁还年轻的时候多冒险、多去尝试，不要老是选择那些看似安全的路，或是认为大家走过的路就是正确的。跟随自己的心去开创自己的未来，失败了顶多再来一次，你也会因此而拥有丰富的经历。

Change your perspective on failing. 改变你对失败的认知

For the overachievers especially, failure has rarely been experienced. And up until this point, most of our failures might have been few and far between. But you’re going to fail, and you might even fail in a big way. But promise yourself that when you do, you will see failure as part of the process that will take you where you need to go.

老实说多数人在学生生涯中并没有真正经历过失败，但出社会后随著责任与期待的增加，要遇见失败的机会也比以往多上许多。不要害怕这些经历，其实人生中遇见的挫折就像是爱情，即使痛苦也要努力站起来，当你能勇敢面对失败时，这些经验都会化为你未来的力量，使你变得更坚强。

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Be thankful for everything. 对生活的一切怀抱感恩之心

When it gets tough right now, when the anxiety of the future overwhelms you, it’ll be easy to lose gratitude for all the gifts you’ve been given. Don’t give in. Appreciate that your life is a long story, and what you’re experiencing is a part of it, but it’s not the entire part. And if you can keep that perspective, you’re going to find that gratitude is your greatest weapon in staying grounded, and staying happy.

当生活变得困难，或被未来的焦虑感包围时，常常就会让我们忘记自己是个多幸运的人。学会对生活永怀感激之心是一条漫长之路，但千万不要轻易放弃，当你感激时，周遭的事物都会跟著美好起来，无论再糟的情况，学会从中发掘值得感激的地方将会是你一辈子受用无穷的快乐秘诀。

Have the courage to face your life wherever it takes you.

无论生命将带你走向何处，都要勇敢去面对

You can’t possible have all the answers. You can’t possibly know where you’ll be in a year or five. But you can commit to being open to life. You can believe that whatever comes your way is for a purpose. You can believe that you will let go of the things that are out of your hands. You can believe that you will survive, and maybe even thrive through your next years.

对于未来谁都无法预知，但我们可以学会拥抱生活中的每个机会。相信任何遇见的人、事、物都是有所安排的，无论生命将带你走向何处，勇敢的去做出选择，并大胆承担，在往后的日子回头看时，你会发现所有发生的事情都有它存在的原因。